We raised our children in a large church; much of it we dearly loved. We were very involved. We rarely missed a Sunday - morning or evening. We had meetings every Wednesday night. Committees were often Tuesday and/or Thursday evenings. It was in some ways a gruelling schedule; a fact I never realized at the time because all my friends were doing it too. In those days I daydreamed about finding an island where I could practice my spiritual disciplines in peace and quiet. Over time, I realized that I was taking an extreme position. Instead of taking responsibility for my schedule, I was looking for a way to escape.
If we spend to much time devoting ourselves to our intimate and/or our community relationships without taking time to stay in touch and relationship with ourselves we are going to find ourselves acting out in the other two love arenas and losing touch with ourselves.
Not understanding this, I often lamented our packed church calendar and our children’s busy social and sports obligations. Honestly, it never occurred to me that as the parent I was responsible for setting the pace of our household. I suspect that this is because I was also unaware of my responsibility to monitor my own personal calendar.
Too busy? Aren’t we all? No, actually, everyone is not. Folks who understand the value and accept the responsibility of practicing good self-care are not too busy. They balance their relational and social obligations along with what they learn they need to stay healthy as an individual.
Today, I am unapologetically not too busy, even though I have a full calendar. That is because my calendar includes regular time for self-care. Exercise. Quiet time. Prayer and meditation. Therapy. Is my schedule ideal? No, but I am making progress. How about you? What do you require, what are your daily practices that help you stay awake, aware and reasonably happy with yourself?