One famous phrase that sprung out of AA is “one day at at time”; this is incredibly hard advice to accept. When my friend got outed for her adulterous ways, she wanted to hurry up and get on with it.
She grew impatient with her husband’s “unwillingness to forgive and forget since he’s a Christian” - her words exactly. I was more amazed that he stayed quiet and didn’t retort, “Well, I’m a little surprised that you, being a Christian and all, forgot to not cheat on me with every Tom, Dick and Harry within the city and four surrounding counties.”
Transformation is no small thing and it is more like a marathon than a sprint. This is no excuse for complacency, but there needs to be room for rest (as opposed to relapse) as we work.
My friend had the nerve to suggest that maybe I wasn’t trusting her enough to suggest more “assignments” so that she could move forward in her recovery a rate that was more fitting to her drive to succeed. But I heard all this as true signs that her journey back to wellness had barely begun.
Rest. Figure out how to do so. It’s important.
Here are a few suggestions: workout but not like a maniac, take walks without worrying about if you get in 10,000 steps, draw, color in a coloring book, read fiction, clean out your garage, mow your lawn, keep a puzzle going, if it’s winter build a fire in the fireplace and enjoy it, use good mugs for your coffee, go to the movies….what else? See - this recovery work isn’t all work and no play!!