We simply cannot live through someone else and so this version of life will never provide the meaning we crave. We need an alternative. We need something else to dedicate ourselves to that adds meaning back into our lives in the midst of all of the chaos.
That meaning, I think, comes from a conscious, intentional dedication to process.
Discovering meaning in (or for) our lives pushes back chaos, crisis, and the all-encompassing sense of unmanageability. "Meaning," as a concept, is not a thing we find when we know the right place to look. It is the sum of various seemingly disparate life parts that we cobble together. I am obviously not an expert at this and so I'm not prepared to unpack the exact ways in which someone finds meaning in life, but I will point to a few of these "life parts" that I know help.
* Connection to God
* Rituals or habits (from spiritual disciplines to exercise, we benefit from regularity)
Process falls under nearly any of these categories because, as I wrote earlier, we're all in process of becoming a person who can: connect with his or her creator, participate in community, examine self, maintain habits, and dedicate ourselves to whatever our work is.