In Brown’s introduction to her book Rising Strong she says, “I define wholehearted living as engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am brave and worthy of love and belonging.” (p.xix)
My friend with the serial adultery issue was the first to acknowledge that her adultery didn’t fit with her core values. She is a pastor in a large church. She teaches a course on ethics at the local community college. She would be mortified if her daughter found out her dirty little secret. In spite of all that acknowledgement, she seemed very reluctant to actually DO anything different. What was she missing? Here are some things we can shoot for that might help us walk a path of personal growth, and we can perhaps use them to guide our own insights about what is “missing” in our search for transformation:
Change is more likely to happen when we utilize courage, compassion and connection to do our work. Sadly, I often hear parents lament over their children’s problems. Having three of my own I have done my fair share of lamenting too. But I’ve never seen it hurt a situation for those of us who love a struggling person – whether child, spouse, parent or third cousin twice removed – to do our own work of recovery.
I hope you have some dreams about what a wholehearted life would look like for you personally. What foundational actions might you need to take to get the ball rolling in the right direction? What small first right steps need to be in place so that you can move toward your wholehearted, whole hog life? Can you find courage, compassion and connection in your own life? What might have to change in order to access these 3 c’s?