Last week we talked about change, bravery, trust, receiving feedback and the skill set of relational reciprocity. Can we pause to admit that change is not easy? Can we agree with Brene’ that it often requires us to challenge long held perspectives and rules which our family system has propagated for generations?
In their book Rooted In God’s Love, Dale and Juanita Ryan speak to this very topic (pp.134-135) and offer a prayer, here it is:
Lord, it isn’t just me
that I am trying to change.
I am up against
generations of dysfunction.
An empty way of life
has dominated my family for a long time.
It has been passed down to me.
No wonder it seems so hard to change.
I need your help, Lord.
Help me to find hope
in your understanding of my struggle.
Help me to find hope in your gift of redemption.
I pray this for you; I ask you to pray this for me. Together, we carry on.