Our contempt does not serve us well. Yesterday I suggested that addressing the causes of our contempt is the first step in crafting a life beyond our hurts and resentments.
It is difficult to avoid comparing our lives to the lives of those around us, particularly as it relates to our hurts. As Brittany and I dealt with infertility, we couldn’t help but notice how easily it seemed all of our friends got pregnant and birthed children without complication. We know, we know, lots of people struggle with infertility- that’s not the point. The point is that the comparison factor kicks in when you’re hurting. It often does not help to be told there are plenty of nameless and faceless others out there like you when all you see around you in your day-to-day life are people who, in this area, have it easier than you do. This comparison is fertile breeding ground for contemptuous living.
Avoiding comparisons to other people’s lives is an important step in avoiding living as contemptuous people. That’s really the goal isn’t it? We want to avoid living as contemptuous people in order to give ourselves the best possible chance at a hopeful life moving forward.
This is not easy to do, but there are a couple of things we must all keep in mind as it pertains to the comparison game.
What are those things? Check back tomorrow.