Back in the day I thought Christians should never fight or argue; today I believe we MUST disagree BUT not fight dirty. If we follow the teachings of Jesus, then we can disagree on many points about how to apply his teaching but there is no argument that I can find for misunderstanding how to interpret this: Jesus cared about the sorry people - the marginalized, disenfranchised, the homeless, helpless, hurting, imprisoned. This is indisputable.
These are the matters that we must be willing to fight over. My friend Myra posted a FB post about language around suicide. It was thoughtful, respectful and helpful. She hit her mark. But one of her old high school buddies disagreed, kind of rudely, but not terribly inappropriately. My friend Debi enriched the conversation by supporting Myra’s position and she got blasted by the guy - way out of bounds. In response, several folks spoke back into this guy’s life by explaining that this is not how we roll; we can disagree but we will not support name calling. Later I learned that Myra blocked him and deleted his comment.
My point is this: all of it was done respectfully AND people spoke up and out about the abusive language used. This is necessary for a civil society to remain civil; we have to fight for this or else the abusive voices will be granted tacit permission to continue their abusive ways.
Fighting fair is a core value for those who believe in the value of life - even the lives of those who annoy us.
Fight fair. Don’t be a dirty fighter or Myra might block you.