We resist change. I think it is, in large part, because we believe it is harder than we can manage. Change is hard, but we make it feel insurmountable when we expect more of ourselves than the process of recovery actually asks of us. In point of fact, believing the lie that change is too hard is pro-addiction thinking. It is the disease system trying to trick us into believing we cannot do it, so why try?
I suppose this is why I believe that spirituality is such a key ingredient for desperate folks looking for their freedom. In a spiritual program like the 12-Steps, we are NOT asked to do the heavy lifting, we are promised that God will do the hard stuff - and he is eager to do so!
So what is our part? Here is what is being asked of you:
* Believe that God has more power than you do.
* Accept that you do not have enough power or capacity to reason to solve your problems without a higher power.
* Trust that restoration is possible for you.
I’m not going to kid you, this is the first part of the solution. But boy wowser gee whiz - it is a pretty freaking big part with a lot of implications.
Answer the following:
If I believe that God has more power than I have, what changes for me in terms of my relationship with him and my actions on a daily basis?
If I accept that I do not have either the power or the capacity to solve my problems, what changes in the way I deal with my problems?
If I trust that restoration is possible for me, what’s my next right step?