Some situations are mine to own and respond to! What if I am the lead dog? What if the decisions needed rest at my feet? If I am highly invested, I need to slow down and listen up.
1. Who do I need to learn from? Listen to? Consider? Have I really gathered all the data?
1. Get curious, without trying to sway or influence others.
2. How can I contribute?
1. Do I have a super power I can bring to the table? If so, have I been invited to use it?
If not, STEP BACK. If yes, the final question.
3. What can I responsibly contribute to the situation without any regard for the outcome?
If we are too focused on the outcome, then we will have a very tough time detaching from our feelings, thoughts, preferences, and habitual ways of acting while under stress. When we can practice objectivity and live life without attachment to a particular outcome, we are well-positioned to be part of the solution rather than part of the problem.
The STEP BACK is an important boundaries tool. But the STEP UP is all about character. What happens when we realize that we’ve messed up? Well folks, there are appropriate responses for that too.