When we experience trauma, our entire being goes into a form of survival mode. This is a reaction, not a response. We do not think. We do not feel. We do not reason. We do not evaluate the situation and ask how we want to respond based on our core values or long term plans.
We react. We ruminate. We blame. We numb.
Maybe take some time today to consider how you might be reacting (rather than responding), ruminating (rather than thinking in a balanced way about life), blaming (rather than accepting responsibility for our issues and letting others deal with their issues), and numbing (by a million different coping strategies - over or under eating, over or under sleeping, over or under exercising, using alcohol or drugs to excess, spending too much money, etc.)