How about an inventory of your relationships? Your columns for this inventory include:
1. List all your personal relationships in which there have been recurring problems.
2. Next, list the primary feeling/s you experience when this person’s name comes to your mind
(pain, fear, guilt, joy, sadness, anger, resentment, etc.).
3. How has this relationship affected you? What has it cost you?
4. What shortcomings does this situation reveal about you?
Remember - do not filter yourself! If a person’s name comes to mind - write it down. Just write!