Hope is not believing that everything will work out in the end. That is wishful thinking. Things do not always work out well. It’s false advertising to insist that someone in deep suffering should just perk up because God is going to work everything out.
According to whose expectations? That’s the rub. And that is why we cannot say that all things work out in the end. I know, you want me to consider the passage that says - We know that God works all things together for good for the ones who love God, for those who are called according to his purpose.
~ Romans 8:28 CEB
But that presumes the conditions mentioned in the quote! And just because things work together for good does not mean it will work out alright for the every individual. What we know is that God is alive and well and at work among us. And that his work is good. But that doesn’t mean that every situation will be a big win for each of us.
When faced with calamity, we have choices. Some good; others problematic. Let’s consider some options:
1. We can ignore the problem and hope it resolves itself. This works sometimes, but it is a risky gamble. I once worked in an office where one of the employees would jam the printer and then skulk away without fixing the problem. People of course caught on. Soon various office mates were swiping the print cartridge and leaving clues for the rest of the team to find it - but the evil doer was never let in on the secret. He wasted untold hours waiting for the machine to magically become operational. No lessons were ever learned about copy machine etiquette that I can recall.
2. We can acknowledge the problem, face it head on, and figure out what to do next. We approach the problem as often as needed and try a variety of strategies. We look at problems as an experiment that needs resolving, not an impossibility that we need to fight, flee or freeze over.
3. We can blame others for the problem. This might make us feel momentarily better but it also makes it harder for us to resolve the issue because everyone is so busy defending their honor that they allow the problem to flourish.
There are a host of other options - but which of these sounds like it most fits the skills associated with resiliency? Obvious, right? Option 2. What problem do you need to face head on but are delaying making a move? What is blocking you? What support might you need to ask for?