A list of areas where you may need accountability

As you make your Fourth Step lists, here are some categories to ponder. Within each category, we may find particular patterns of harm (either ways we have been harmed repeatedly or ways we have habitually harmed others) - so pay attention and look for patterns! For example, I have a friend who has been married a couple of times to women who have cheated on him. I have another friend who struggles with over-spending, even though her income has increased dramatically in the last few years.

God -

Religion -

Sex -

Marriage -

Family -

Parenting -

Relationships -

Career/Job -

Finances -

Self -

As you think about these categories, here are some questions to answer:

1. Which areas are most upsetting for me to consider?

2. What patterns do I notice? (Abuse, abandonment, manipulation, etc.)

3. Am I keeping secrets from myself and others?

4. Do any of the possible shortcomings that I identified in previous studies show up?

If any of these areas feels particularly upsetting or triggering for you - please talk to someone on your support team about your reaction. Again, if you aren’t doing a fourth step - thanks for hanging in with us!